I’m Not Building for Her. I’m Building with Her.
Because legacy isn’t what you hand down. It’s what you build together.
Most parents say it:
“I’m doing this for my kids.”
“I’m building this so they don’t have to struggle like I did.”
“Everything I do is for them.”
It sounds noble.
But if I’m honest, that mindset never sat right with me.
Because when you build for someone, you shield them from the process.
And if they never see the process, they never learn to do it themselves.
They inherit results…
But not the mindset.
Not the reps.
Not the identity that made the result possible.
I decided I’m not building for my daughter.
I’m building with her.
It started simple.
She told me her favorite app was Roblox.
So I told her, “You can own a piece of that.”
We bought a few shares together.
Now she checks them monthly and feels like an investor.
She sees how it moves.
She understands it’s a long game.
She connects her decision to something real.
That one conversation shifted the way she thinks about money.
Then she pitched me her YouTube channel.
She didn’t just want to make videos.
She wanted to make money.
So I said, “Let’s treat this like a business.”
She committed to filming six videos before we launched anything.
No instant feedback. No rewards.
Just showing up and putting in the reps.
She started with her iPad and front camera.
The lighting was rough. The mic wasn’t great.
But that was the point.
I didn’t fix it for her.
I let her see what could be better.
And one by one, she leveled it up.
She asked for a table → we built one.
She saw my mic → now she wears a lav.
She wanted better video → we upgraded her setup.
Every improvement came from her.
Not me.
Because I’m not trying to be her producer.
I’m being her first investor.
She pitched.
We agreed.
I fund the infrastructure.
She builds the product.
And when it produces value, she owns it.
That’s what “building with her” looks like.
I’m teaching her how to build, yes, but also how to tinker.
How to fail.
How to keep moving forward when it’s not perfect.
That’s grit.
It’s the ability to:
Accept when something’s not quite right
Recognize where to improve
Adapt in real time
Move forward anyway
She’s learning that you won’t always have the perfect setup.
You won’t always have all the information.
But you start anyway.
Because doing nothing leads to nothing.
And done is always better than perfect.
She’s also learning that every real opportunity involves a little risk.
With stocks, with content, with life.
But you calculate the risk.
You place the bet.
You extend your time horizon beyond most people’s comfort zone.
Because building anything worthwhile means recognizing:
Nothing is guaranteed. But upside only comes to those who move.
Your turn:
What are you letting your kids participate in now, not just benefit from later?
Not just a handoff.
A partnership.
Reply and tell me, or forward this to someone who’s doing it with their kid too.